It is often said by some that it is one thing to be attracted to a young woman on the basis of her fair appearance, but another to be attracted by the sharpness and depth of her mind.
When lust is the primary reaction to your realization of that young woman, she might not be the long-term one for you, as it will influence your interactions with her whether you admit it or not. Remember what the meaning of lust is.
On the other hand, if it is your mind and soul that receives a spark by simply being with her, she will have easier access to your heart in ways you never thought possible. Growth is inevitable.
Believe me when I say this: A pleasant young woman with a beautiful mind will serve your needs much better than one whose appearance is all she has going for her. Beauty fades over time, but the mind and soul is what makes a woman regal.
Get to know someone properly, and that will require maturity, focus and faith. You know what you want out of life. Go get it. Only you are responsible for your own true happiness in this world. Be proactive in seeking this happiness.
Don’t make any more excuses.
P.S. Do you know who Candace is?